Life is such a paradox, normal or not so normal, right or wrong, good or bad…..is it not sometimes in the eye of the beholder? Seems to me we, as a society, spend way too much time judging others and inserting our version of “normal” into places we should leave alone. Who are we to say what is normal? Is normal not an ever evolving snapshot of different time periods of our lives? I know I can safely say that what I think is normal now, would not have been the norm for me 15 years ago. As we grow older we get more and more cemented in this idea of a generalized normal behavior, or family, or look, and you know what happens, we subconsciously pass judgement on that person or situation. Should we not be a little more forgiving for people’s different normals? Why can we not envelop ourselves with just that, our own norm and families. Who really cares what happens in the Jones house or how Sally dresses, those are all norms to them. If we spent a touch more time looking within and stop worrying about what is happening all around us, this world would look incredibly different. This is a glimpse at my new normal, because I have looked within to see that I like what I see and know that this will be an amazing ride, at least for me!
One year ago my normal daily routine was a little, well a lot, different from what it looks like today. It looked even more different 5 years ago. I have always been the one to wake up when the baby, or now babies, start to stir for a little sip of the liquid gold, aka breast milk. For those who may have no kids or its been a while, the reaction for mom if you leave a little in the bottle or spill a splash of the milk, will give you the understanding on the term, “liquid gold.” So I wake up first and start the diaper changing. Now being a veteran dad, I know the importance of regimented schedules and you should as well. I am, however, a rookie multiples dad and its a little different. If one gets up, the other is getting woke up for side by side feedings. So diapers changed, bottles warming, and momma pumping the gold. I feed the dreamboats and she helps burp and its back to bed. All this is happening around 5 am, yes that means these boys are sleeping from 8 pm to 5 am, pretty darn consistently. We are now convinced that there is something built into the psyche of the later babies in a big family, “I better be good, or I get no love,’ which of course is preposterous, but I will take it! All in all, we are getting about 6 to 7 hours of continuous sleep! Amazing, these little boys are spectacular!! The rest of the day is a blur….
The bigs and middles, our little nicknames for the other boys, are adjusting as well to the new look of this family. They tend to roll with the punches, but I think they are loving having these boys around as well. There is a lot of love to go around and as this family has grown, so has the affection for life. In the not so distant past I thought I would be a father to 2 boys and now when I look out on this landscape of my life I am ecstatic for the blessing of 7 sons. I get to coach teams now until I am like 60, ok maybe not that long, but I won’t be a spring chicken when theses guys are teenagers. I will be a mature and oh so wise father of 5 boys before who have made the mistakes and bad decisions that these boys will learn from. So the new norm is, well pretty normal for this family and I would have my normal look no other way. Carpe diem and enjoy whatever your normal consists of, and never compare what you have to what someone else’s normal looks like, you just never know who that someone may be.